Me vs. Them

Hmmm dating, such an exhausting task. I have had all types of men approach me. And it's been interesting. Not sure if it's my baby face, but I seem to attract older men that are twice my age (major side eye). I feel like there is no happy medium, it's either I attract men my age who are not serious about exploring a relationship. So then I have to curve them because we all know what they are looking for, Or I get approached by  the older grandpas. I hate small talk and I hate people  wasting my time. Yeah, I get it men my age either party (club scene  every weekend), drink (alot) and smoke (24/7). I'm not about that. I'm looking for substance. I like trips, exploring different things, talking, hanging out/ getting to know one another. What is wrong with that now a days! I cant stand games at all.  Things like this makes me hesitant to even bother striking up a conversations with men. I feel like I already know in what direction it will go. But on the rare occasions I meet someone I feel is worthy of my time. Conversation is great, we do fun activities but I find myself not attracted. Am I being too picky? Do I even know what I am looking for?  (NO)   I really cant put the blame all on them now can I!